|Learn How to love Others
Learn How Not to Hurt
Learn How to Heal
|Friendship is a Verb (in a hurting world) by Stuart Wood
|Have you ever been hurted by the brothers (or sisters) in your own church?
Are some of your most traumatic life experiences actually come from within the Christian
community that you are part of?
Or, have you been unmittingly your brothers or sisters in Christ arising from your spiritual
Do you sometimes find yourself drowning amongst a sea of words around you, only to find the
comfort you need elusive?
It is not surprising that the answers to all these questions may be resounding Yes' - because
we are all human and capable of making mistakes.
From our own life experince, it is likely that we have come to the conclusion that words are
cheap unless they are backed-up by positive action.
We may ahve also come tot he conclusion that we can only be truly effective and fulfilled in life
when we have good relationships with other people and with God.
We often hear that relationships and friendships are much easier to handle when everything
is going well. The real testing comes when we are called to develop or maintain relationships
in the painful and difficult times.
We live in a hurting world where we will encounter problems, difficulties and sin.
This book is a collection of poems, prose and observations which are based on the
experiences of the author himself and those of his close friends over the years.
We have to try to avoid simple answers or trite words of comfort.
It is hoped that you will be stirred, challenged and moved, perhaps even to the point of
discomfort! It is often in our uncomfortable and vulnerable times that God can speak to us
|Friendship is a Verb
(in a hurting world)
by Stuart Wood
|Be Tempered with Humility:
Arrogance is extremely destructive for relationships. One party is always in a ‘superior’
position, and there is danger that the relationship will turn into a dictatorship and become
abusive. However, if I were humble, according to the main Greek word used in the New
I would be someone who naturally acknowledged that all of my natural gifts, etc., come
from God. At the same time, I would acknowledge that I am an object of His undeserved,
redeeming love. I would no longer think of myself as ‘my own’, but God's in Christ. I would
know that it is impossible to exalt myself, because I have nothing of myself. Therefore, the
humble mind is at the root of all other graces and virtues. There can be no real love
without humility. Humility is also described in the Bible as a ‘Fruit of the Spirit’. Fruit takes
time to grow; it is not instant (unless it is synthetic or plastic!). So, we shouldn’t be
surprised if humility is hard to practice.
However, these are not excuses to give us good reason to avoid trying. The Holy Spirit
will change us as we allow Him. If we are not willing, He will not force change upon us. So,
we should first ask whether this is a characteristic we want to display. If the answer is
‘yes’, we should ask God to change us, understanding that it may take some time.
Imagine how different our relationships would be if we all exercised true humility!
|Brought to you by Jacob Gan, PhD (Michigan)