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Self-image is an image of ourselves we have set in our illusion. It is a
deposit of sensatory sketches, viewpoint, And opinion regarding ourselves.
Perfect self-image is an aspiration of what you want to look like. Self–image
is of two kinds – one is ideal self-image And the other one is perceived self-
image. Perceived self-image is the real image of us.
Guilt generates from the space between the two types of self-images. Guilt
of our images lowers our self-esteem. To overcome guilt we should reduce
the gap between perfect self-image And perceived image. We can either do
this to change our perfect image or improve our perceived image.
One more way to save ourselves is to create a false image as our perfect
image. Accepting or liking ourselves is the first step towards developing the
self-esteem. We accept ourselves means accepting other’s opinion
towards us. During learning try to know the duties of your hated portion of
your appearance And you will get to know how important it really is.
Adopt measures to keep your body And mind healthy like exercise,
relaxation, And get adequate sleep.
Increase your confidence through enlarging your self-belief instead of
saying this particular quality does not suit you, your age, personality, etc.
This kind of flexibility helps us to go at any area of life. This kind of attitude
helps us to face any kind of challenge.
Negative thinking develops anxiety And nervousness that stops us from
proceeding in any direction. Beware of negative emotions such as guilt,
depression, And anger. They are the main obstacles in the path of success
that lowers our motivation And confidence.
Another way to develop self-esteem is to ignore negative reactions toward
us.
Practice positive thinking about yourself; use the right words to describe
yourself. Rigidity in this attitude can hurt us with the changes in society,
whereas flexibility molds the person according to the external environment.
So, develop a good self-image And be happy.
Learn to Accept Self And Others
In Maslow’s hierarchy of needs theory, self-actualization is the ultimate goal
one wants to achieve. A self-actualized person has no problem in
accepting himself And others complete with their positive And negative traits.
No human being is perfect And has certain shortcomings. People have
difficulty in recognizing their imperfections. Therefore, the first step in
solving the problem is to accept the fact that one has certain shortcomings.
Maslow introduced the concept of the higher self in a self-actualized
person. This higher self is our prime motivation And drives us towards
success And in the search for the unattainable.
Several times parents or friends use derogatory terms to address children
when they are unable to perform basic tasks or do badly at school. Children
are very sensitive And they perceive these labels negatively as a failure of
their intelligence or personality. These children grow into adults with an
inferiority complex, carrying a burden of their childhood. In fact, the higher
self changes in to one’s parents And becomes a part of our lives. We end
up trying to meet the expectations of these internalized parents, throughout
our lives.
The key to accept one's self And others is by recognizing one’s true higher
self.
One has to learn to acknowledge And love oneself, along with one’s
negative traits, instead of wishing them away And living in self-denial. One
must have a positive outlook in life And remember that we are responsible
for ourselves And cannot blame others for our actions or defects. One can
achieve self-acceptance by gaining control over one’s life, forgetting the
past, planning for a bright future And forgiving others for their actions And
harsh words.
The self-acceptance process begins with first being truthful to oneself. Next,
one has to assess one’s strengths And weaknesses And try to overcome
them by focusing on the positives. A detailed self-analysis can help one
understand the basic reason for falling short of one’s expectations. Then
one must tap one’s higher self to resolve the needs And expectations gap.
This powerful motivator can greatly accelerate the self-acceptance process.
In this way, one can take a stepwise approach to accepting oneself And
others along with their defects, by having a positive outlook towards life.
To read more on How to be Happiness go to 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
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